Not Retired At All: My Second Hypno-Crush

Correction: Lady Lita is still extremely active and making new and exciting content. You can find her recordings HERE, and you can also find information about various forms of live sessions as well.

Additionally, I’d hate to think that this post in its original form did anything other than celebrate someone whose work I deeply enjoy! 

Semi-Retired is a multi-part series that focuses on Hypnodommes that are no longer as active as they once were. This series does not explore the reasons for their absence, but does explore the marks they left on me, and maybe you too. SEE ABOVE.

Part 1: My Second Hypno-Crush I love Lady Lita. And honestly, I’ve loved her from afar for a VERY long time. And by love her, what I mean is I have very fond feelings for her work, and my history with her as I don’t know her at all. She was an important figure in developing the scene, was immensely popular for a good chunk of time, and for some people she was a problematic character. I’m going to brush over most of that, and instead focus on what she meant to my development.

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On Writing… Hypnosis Erotica

***Disclaimer: I don’t read male-dom hypnosis erotica, nor do I create that content, so nothing in this article has anything specifically to do with that subset of content. That is not to say this article is not relevant to that content though***

Hypnosis erotica is a bit of a cornerstone of the erotic hypnosis internet.
The story collection site mcstories.com is a lot of people’s first stop on their journey into our gloriously perverted world, and it remains a vital and important part of our fetish for a lot of people.

And you know what, one of these days I’ll send some stuff over there, or write something that will be exclusive for the site.

You see (and probably know), I write and sell femdom hypnosis erotica as a way to earn passive income, and also to write the stories I want to write. Profit wise, it’s not nearly as profitable as script writing, but it’s fun, and is usually much more fun than script writing is.

Part of that is the fact my stories are my content and my ideas so it’s all me (unless it’s a comission, but even then my clients tend to be “do your thing with this idea”), and another part of that is the difference in writing technique and the different needs that stories and scripts have.

So, what needs does hypnosis erotica address, and how does one go about writing hypnosis as a story compared to as a script?

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Feelings and Words: My Recent Live Session Experiences

So, because they’ve been offering sessions on the cheap, I’ve been able to do live sessions (or real time calls, if live to you means “in person”) with Mistress Calamity Brain (twitter here), and so far it’s been been an awesome time.

I wrote recently about how I watched a shit ton of videos from Goddess Emily and how much I enjoy her work (I’m a hypno-slut, I know, I know…), and the thing is, all of these things have come together to help me grow and improve as a subject, as a student of hypnosis, and in turn, as a professional.

Here’s how that last part works.

Even though I don’t get paid for this part of it, writing these articles is a part of my job. It’s a little bit of advertising for myself by giving Pro Dommes a chance to get to know my thoughts, my experience, and my professional and philosophical outlooks, but it’s also a little bit… I don’t know… peer support.

Every once and a while I get an email from someone thanking me for what I’ve shared and what I’ve talked about in my blogs.
Every once and a while I get a DM from someone with a serious personal question, or a personal question about ethics, conduct, or something else, and when that happens I feel touched and honored to have done work here that has helped people in some way.
It’s not my job to be a know-it-all, or to claim I’m an expert, but I think of it as a job and a responsibility to, since I’m making money here in this community, to try and help other people the way I’ve been helped, and to try and help other people in the ways I would have, or would like to be helped.
I have a lot of access, and I have a lot of experience and perspective on this whole thing, and knowing how hard it can be, I really do try and work to help people. And you know what… more often than not, I’m helping myself.

(The least revelatory revelation of all time right thee, I know… but I’m writing about my experiences because I know they’re not unique, and I’ve known that because I’ve been paying a lot of attention over that last twenty years of having a name for my perversions and deviant desires…)

So, what does all of this have to do with me having a handful of live sessions with someone and having a great time doing so?

Well, in typical me fashion let’s find out together in the next too many words.

Words.
A month or so ago, after my first session with Calamity, I thought to myself, “I know what I want, I want to be small, weak, dumb, powerless, depersonalized and destroyed.”

I also thought, “I want to be fucking dominated.”

These weren’t new thoughts, they weren’t even new words, but the intention was new, and the scope was new. Time gives you perspective, and over time I’ve always thought I was your median average hypno-perv (as I said in the last one), but it turns out that I’m more extreme than average. I’m a little bit of a masochist too, but that’s flavor for the rest of this.

One of the funny things about this whole fetish is how broad it is, and how different it can be.
I’ve talked before about how the two most common ways people come to it either through mass media fantasies, or from exposure via other D/s experiences, and those two paths tend to lead to different kinds of fantasies and desires. Often times the mass media people have a hypnosis fetish, and that is their kink, whereas the D/s people find hypnosis as a part of and a means of exploring their other fetishes, and can in turn develop a hypnosis fetish that exists in that context.
It leads to different wants because it exists in those different contexts, and eventually, those two things meet in the middle, where the clichés and the aesthetics merge with the application.

That’s, I think, where a lot of people are and/or end up pretty quickly, with some variation of love of aesthetics, clichés, and theatrics… but again, that’s for hypno-fetishists, and that’s different that people who use hypnosis with their other fetishes.

But once you’re there, what really is there? What I mean is, how do you describe that place, and how do you find your bearing in that space when it’s such a nebulous space to be in?

I figure if I’m thinking about this, and have been thinking about it for a long time, so are other people. But here’s my thought, use your words, and if you don’t know what those words are, or what to say, or what you want, then tell people. That’s what I’m learning, and I don’t think it’s a particularly profound insight, but it can be hard, it can be really hard to not know, or to even realize you don’t know.

Femdom Erotic Hypnosis, as a fetish that has any kind of organized shape, size, or form is pretty new in the grand scheme of things. So much of our ideas of it comes from mass media content that didn’t take hold until after World War 2, and then only really became an accessible thing to talk about via the internet
So what we can communicate, what we can talk about or try and codify is pretty recent, with actual communities, norms, and any kind of conceptual or communications continuity of thought being even newer.

So to be clear, despite the fact I’ve been into this shit for 20 years, spent a few good years in a romantic relationship with a hypno-domme, and work in this scene because of my breadth of knowledge and writing abilities, and I’m still bungling through all of this… and based on accounts from my domme friends, I’m super not alone in this.
(Which is also why I’m writing this article.)

Feelings
I had an experience with Calamity in our second session where, in exploring some suggestions about submission, I felt my body change. Not my mind, and not my physical being, but the body of my self move into itself. The suggestion was about being small, only instead of feeling small, it felt like I’d been living a foot outside of myself, projecting myself outward, and in a moment, I was my actual size, my actual self.

It was a feeling, and maybe there aren’t enough words for, and maybe it isn’t worth trying to define and deliver, because ultimately it only matters to me, but where it matters to you is that this is what you can get to feel.

Not “THIS” thing, but this kind of moment.

I think Calamity is skilled, insightful, intuitive, and fun, in other words a great hypnotist who is dramatically undercharging for their ability right now. I think if you’ve been hesitating to try live calls, and you’ve been looking for someone who may be able to work well with you, give Calamity a shot.

I’ve done live sessions with 6 or 7 dommes over the last ten years, and there is no experience like it when you click with someone. And if I can offer something else, or offer something again, don’t be afraid to ask questions, and to let yourself try things out. Hypnosis is powerful, and it has a deep emotional place with all of us, but it’s not magic. Calamity is very into enthusiastic consent, so who better to help you take you first steps?

Getting What I’ve Always Wanted

Hi everyone, this is a slightly different kind of blog for me in that it’s a hybrid between a review and my other exploratory essays, that’s why this is going up in both feeds.

It’s titled “Getting What I’ve Always Wanted”, because that’s how this idea started… well… sort of.
It really started because I wrote a review for a piece I liked that was made by someone I’m a fan of, but then she took that piece down, and it didn’t seem, I don’r know… fair… to advertise something of hers that I loved that people couldn’t buy if they were so inclined. So, I was going to write a new review  to plug one of her new pieces, but then I kept going, and going, and found something in her catalogue that, through a whole mix of factors, was exactly what I’ve always wanted in a file/video.

Titnotized JOI, by  Goddess Emily

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Anxiety, Depression, Hypnosis, Distraction

 

Anxiety, Depression, Hypnosis, Distractions

            I was talking with a Pro Domme friend the other day, and while we were mainly not talking about work stuff, we did, as always happens in this industry, end up touching on work stuff, and the experience of trance. She told me how, in Skype sessions, she’ll watch for clients as they start to disassociate and pull their focus back, and this got me to thinking about something I’d never put in context of hypnosis before:

            My Attention Deficit Disorder!

            I also got to thinking about, and this will be covered in another blog very soon, how the kind of person that, generally speaking, most wants to experience a loss of control is fundamentally terrible at doing so just from a skills perspective.

            So, let’s talk a little bit about various mental health and neurodiversity issues, cobbled together from person and anecdotal experience, and examine how they can impact our experiences and relationships with hypnosis and being hypnotized.

            I think it goes without saying that I’m not a mental health professional, but given the nature of what this is all about, let me explicitly state that I am not an expert on any of this stuff (past functional professional expertise on hypnosis). Now, with that out of the way, let’s get to it.

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Hypnosis and Addiction

I grew up with a parent who was/is in Alcoholics Anonymous (AA), and I grew up afraid to drink when I was in high school, because I was afraid of becoming an alcoholic. I have self control, and impulse control issues that were much worse when I was younger, and what I thought were addictive tendencies have in turn turned out to be gluttony issues. It’s a fine line, but it’s not the same. When you’re an addict, you “can’t” stop, when you’re a glutton, you choose not to.

But, I was lucky, because when I did start really drinking at 19, I only had to deal with the basic idiocy of youth, and the fun of over-doing it until the night’s fun turned to physical misery, and then a day or so later, when that misery would circle back around to the fun of celebrating that over indulgence.

If you’ve gone hard at life at all, you know that, “I was so drunk, and…” is usually the start of a great story.

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The Top 8 Things Outsiders Get Wrong About Femdom Erotic Hypnosis

Preface: Before we get going, I want to clarify that this is about the Femdom Hypnosis scene, not about the practice of female domination via hypnosis as a concept. 

Outsiders?
So this is a special, exclusive club now?
No, that’s not what I mean at all.
It’s not a question of if you belong or not, it’s about the fact this scene is really its own thing, and like any niche it operates by its own rules. This is especially, maybe even glaringly true if you’re coming from a more traditional kind of D/s experience and/or kink play. So when I say “Outsider” what I mean is someone who is not culturally indoctrinated in this scene either as a domme or a sub.

So, first things first:

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The Top Ten Ways Femdom Erotic Hypnosis Has Changed

Hello everyone, now that I’m an accomplished script writer, and blogger who just this month has reached  TWENTY YEARS OF EXPERIENCE in the world of Femdom Erotic Hypnosis, I think I’m going to start calling myself an expert, and lording my accumulated knowledge over other people by saying:

As someone with TWENTY YEARS OF EXPERIENCE…

Okay, I’m not, because that would make me (even more?) insufferable, and also because there’s a certain misleading nature to it, as it sounds like I’ve been working in the scene the whole time, where slightly over half those years were just me being a horny consumer.
That isn’t to say I haven’t always paid a lot of attention the entire time (I have, it’s how my brain’s wired), or that my experience as a consumer isn’t invaluable (it’s hugely valuable and necessary to my work), but the context matters… so while you bet I’m adding that to my website, it will be qualified.

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Inject the Venom

Hello, and welcome back to what was once a daily hypnosis review blog. I doubt I’ll be going daily again, as it’s been… 7 months since the last time I did one of these, but anyway, I’m hoping to get back to doing these, since they were both fun to write, and helpful tools for me. For example, I’m using this one today as a warmup before doing other work.

And as always, the article is written immediately after experiencing the content I am reviewing.

Important:
Content reviewed in this blog is Femdom Erotic Hypnosis that will mostly be for sale. I’ll include links to where you can purchase this content, and everything posted here will be positive, but this isn’t about public worship and devotion, and I hope to find and explore interesting concepts and ideas by talking about these works with all of you.
As always, I will disclose what my relationships to these people are, if any, and while this is sale content, these write ups are not intended to be adds.

Making the content I’ll be reviewing here is hard work. It is time consuming, and it is both creatively and emotionally demanding. PAY FOR YOUR PORN.


I DO NOT HAVE A PROFESSIONAL RELATIONSHIP WITH ANYONE WHOSE WORK I AM REVIEWING AND ENDORSING. 

BITE! by Charlotte Gray

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You Should Listen to Lee Allure

Hello, and welcome back to what was once a daily hypnosis review blog. I doubt I’ll be going daily again, as it’s been… 7 months since the last time I did one of these, but anyway, I’m hoping to get back to doing these, since they were both fun to write, and helpful tools for me. For example, I’m using this one today as a warmup before doing other work.

And as always, the article is written immediately after experiencing the content I am reviewing.

Important:
Content reviewed in this blog is Femdom Erotic Hypnosis that will mostly be for sale. I’ll include links to where you can purchase this content, and everything posted here will be positive, but this isn’t about public worship and devotion, and I hope to find and explore interesting concepts and ideas by talking about these works with all of you.
As always, I will disclose what my relationships to these people are, if any, and while this is sale content, these write ups are not intended to be adds.

Making the content I’ll be reviewing here is hard work. It is time consuming, and it is both creatively and emotionally demanding. PAY FOR YOUR PORN.


I DO NOT HAVE A PROFESSIONAL RELATIONSHIP WITH ANYONE WHOSE WORK I AM REVIEWING AND ENDORSING. 

Do NOT Listen by Lee Allure

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