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Semi-Retired Part 2: The Mysterious Mystery of Nikki Fatale

WARNING: This post may disillusion you about the realities of Femdom Hypnosis, reader discretion is advised 

Semi-Retired is a multi-part series that focuses on Hypnodommes that are no longer as active as they once were. This series does not explore the reasons for their absence (okay, this one does-ish), but does explore the marks they left on me, and maybe you too.

Semi-Retired Part 2: The Mysterious Mystery of Nikki Fatale

Retired, for the sake of these articles, can also be the polite was of saying the woman in question has quit or otherwise left the scene, maybe without fanfare, and maybe without any kind of announcement. All that said, this is a tricky one to talk about without talking about the “why”, or at least heavily implying what that “why” is. So, I’ll be as businesslike as possible and know that I am not alleging anything.

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(Not Much) More Than a Feeling

Are you on Twitter? Do you follow the Dommes you like either as people, or as content providers? If so, have you ever seen those tweets about guys who say they want to be a slave but don’t do shit when asked?
How about the tweets about how cumming for someone or having an erection or whatever don’t mean shit?
Do you ever think that’s weird, because clearly our erections are what drive us to spend money on this stuff in the first place?

Well, I’ve been thinking about these sentiments a lot, but maybe not in the way you’re thinking.

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WHY HYPNOSIS IS BULLSHIT! (Even though it isn’t)

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Look at all the cliches, layer upon layer of cliche

Why Hypnosis Is Bullshit (even though it isn’t)

Okay, let’s just get this out there, hypnosis is bullshit.
(I would hope you’re already seeing where I’m going with this and not getting worked up and angry, like ‘how dare he…’)
Why is it bullshit? Here’s why!
So let me get this straight, someone is going to talk at me about fluffy clouds or stairs, and count in a soft voice, and I’m going to sort of what? Zone out, and then my mind is going to become an open book where you can say things to my hidden parts and I’ll think, and feel, and do things?
But I’ll only do those things if what you’re saying to me is something I already want, like I’ve already come up with my own ideas and you’re just saying them back to me, and that’s supposed to a big deal?
Oooooh, what a special skill you have to say something I already want, and have me think something I’m already thinking…

Wow…

Hypnosis sure is bullshit.

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Three Foundational Words

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There was a blog I thought I wanted to write, one about what Customers and Providers owe each other in this business, and every time I tried I didn’t like its shape or tone. It came down to me saying, everyone should be doing better, and everyone should be more aware of the realities and driving forces of this marketplace.
Why marketplace? Because, again, I think about things in these terms and because my work is based on the commercial retail side of things.

But no provider wants to read a screed from some guy talking about how no one is giving you money because you’re a powerful woman, they’re giving you their dick dollars because your presentation speaks to their cocks. It’s not a conversation, it’s not wholly accurate or reflective of the power, business, and emotional dynamics of our scene, and more than anything, it’s a guy talking about how important dicks are in a femdom world.
(Like I said, I never liked how it started to come together.)

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It All Starts With Her

Images gleefully downloaded from her sites and layered together for your enjoyment, not my gain.

 

It All Starts With Her:
Goddess Marquesa and Erotic Hypnosis

WARNING: Since I’m writing about one person’s considerable contribution to our scene, there’s a danger it’s going to read as shameless-in-the-bag adoration akin to those goddess worship devotionals we all know so well.
That’s not what this is at all, I promise.
There’s low points to her work, stuff that didn’t work, and stuff that was both corny and not worth the money (which is the story with everyone who has ever made anything), BUT this is a documentation of history and not devotion.
This isn’t a 2000 word add, it’s history.

(Also, duh, I mean I’m at least a little in the bag for her, and I’ve never hid that)

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The Realities of Sex Work (from one degree of separation)

Stop reading this right now if words like Feminism and Sexual Assault bother you. Stop reading this right now if you’re going to get bent out of shape reading about the business dynamics of sex work.

Actually don’t. You’re probably the person that needs this the most.

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Hypnosis: Magic Versus Magical Things

Magical Things

It’s a funny fetish, hypnosis.
For a lot of people, for a lot of people in the scene even, there’s an arcane wonderment to it. An illusory and abnormal quality that lends it to the mystical or the supernatural.
But what is it really, other than fantasy?

Fantasy.
That’s a funny thing too. When we hear the word it usually means something that isn’t real, a fiction, or perhaps a delusion.
It can also be an aspirational word, but even then it is tied into a sense of the impossible, and in that there is the world of the arcane, the power to bend reality, to change the rules of the actual and make it the fantastical.

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Throwback Blog: Your Hypnodomme is not Your Girlfriend

Hey everyone, I wrote this waaaaaay back towards the end of 2014 on my barely used and well intentioned blog (that you never have to go to again because I don’t use it).

One could argue that this piece was my very first attempt at a Behind the Curtain article, and it stirred up a minor spat or two on Inraptured (but what doesn’t) because I threw it out there without any sort of context.

Well, I’ve provided plenty of context for this section of my blog is about, and how it is here to offer a harder look and context at the business of our scene, so that said, let’s all enjoy some time travel and remember:

Your Hypnodomme is Not Your Girlfriend

(Some content bolded/italicized for emphasis, like a school text book)

This might cut close to home.

The woman you are buying your hypno-porn from is not now, nor will she ever be your girlfriend.

What’s worse than that, she’s only nice to you because that’s part of customer service.

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Findom, Sissies, Humiliation, and Shame

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Two important things before I get started.

One:
None of what I’m writing about in this article is what I’d call “my thing”.
We’re all probably pretty used to that idea by now, that there are components of this scene that are not for everyone, and sometimes with the way this scene has grown (over the last few years especially) it can feel like there aren’t really any connections at all anymore.
I’m hoping to dispel a little bit of that sentiment.

Two:
This is a polite disclaimer to make clear that anything I say that may offend you, if you’re reading about something that applies to you or touches on something close to you or a part of who you are that you may be struggling with, is coming from a place of love support and likely also good natured humor.

That said, lets get into the Big Three of Misunderstood Femdom Hypnosis Companion Fetishes.

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Mythology of Mind Control: The Modern Myth of Longer is Better.

 

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Mythology of Mind Control: The Modern Myth of Longer is Better.
(But really it’s just different)

Back in 2007-2008, when I was doing sort of okay financially, I would love to buy at least 1 file a paycheck.

Sometimes, it was more like 1 file every other paycheck, but it happened pretty regularly.

I would buy files based on who made them and length.

Mostly it was Nikki Fatale files, or the occasional Kasha Shakti file, as they had similar lengths and price points.

I thought, as you may, that the longer the file was the better it was.

And let me be clear right now, YES, THAT IS TRUE, but it isn’t the only truth and it isn’t a uniform value. Not all long files are good, and not all good files are long.

Long for the sake of this conversation, is anything over 30 minutes, and listen, full disclosure, I pay my rent by writing scripts that are over 30 minutes. That is how I live and I am personally a fan of long files to this day, but that’s not what we’re here to explore.

But what does better mean? A more effective trance?

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